Sunday, 12 March 2017

My First Date/Crush (Week 8)

YASMINE

I have had plenty of first dates. Some were good and some where just bad. Bad that I don't want to see the guy ever again. But I do have two dates that I can't ever forget. They're the two highlight first dates of my life so far. One was when i was 14. Valentines was approaching soon and this one boy in my class called Dwayne asked me if I could be his Valentines. I was shocked because he used to make fun of me because I was the only asian in that highschool. But I said yes and agreed to be his valentines. For valentines, we went to a valentines fair close by. His mum sent him and my mu sent me to the fair. I was so nervous because it was my first date ever. He was shorter than me too. We went on a few rides and we had food. Overall, it was a great day. But we never dated again haha.

My other best first date that I've had was with my current boyfriend right now. Our date was one to remember. It was romantic and very simple yet unforgettable. He picked me up in front of my house. I remember feeling so nervous because I really like this guy. My mum helped me pick an outfit and I remember him getting out of his car looking so handsome and asking my mum for permission to take me out on a date that day and that I am in safe hands. So he drove me into town and we walked so much, had noodles and sat down and had coffee. Just talking and having a great conversation. I was surprised that I could maintain a conversation with him. It went on extremely fluently. We laughed so much. We then got to his car and realized that his car was clamped because he parked at a reserved parking spot. So we had to walk to the office and waited for 30 mins for someone to get the clamp off. It was a funny experience. He also dropped his ring that his dad had gave him but we couldn't find it. After, he drove me to a rooftop. It was already night time. I cant believe the day went by so fast knowing that I've had so much fun. I didn't want it to end. On the rooftop, we stood at the end and I remember it being really windy, my hair was blowing everywhere but i didn't have a hair tie. He slowly pushed my hair at the back of my ear and he said that he has never met anyone like me who he can actually have a conversation with and we could talk about the same things and it doesn't get boring. I loved that day. It was a great day. There's too many details to the story but overall I loved it. I'm surprised he would want to date me. Malay guys usually run away from me. I don't know why. He is the first malay guy that I have ever dated or just been on a date with. Technically, he is half malay and half chinese but it still counts haha. Until today, he makes all our dates a surprise to look forward to.

Ahmad Afandi

When i was a small boy, i dreamt about my first date. I imagend it to be a beautiful one like the ones you see in movies like confessing our love to each other or just a simple walk in the park. First dates is ussualy an awkward moment for anyone. When i was 22 i was looking around in the internet and social medias to make new friends. Suddenly i found a woman that i found fancy. I tried talking to her but i didnt know what to say fast for ward a few months she asked to meet each other In KL. Well i was in KL the day she wanted to meet so i did just that.  I thought i was prepared enough by watching romantic movies. Boy was i wrong. The first time i acttualy met her, we didsnt talk with each other this still happened even thought we always talked through social media. After the awkward moment we ordered lunch. During lunch is when we talked abit the conversation starter was about favorite foods. After lunch every thing went from awkward to  a bit normal . that was the story of my first date. We continued dating for nearly 2 years after that . i will never forget my first date ever.

HANA

To be honest, I am not a good on my first date because I am quite nervous when I meet a  guy for the first time. Nothing interesting with my experiences just last year is my worst moment when that guy and I going out to eat together and he talk about his boring topic like his previous school, his siblings and his ex girlfriends then I felt annoying because for me that kind of topics maybe not suitable for our first date. The next day I do a research on how to create a good impression on first date.

#1)Talk To A Woman Like It’s A Date, Not A Job Interview
Men who focus on behaving politely to a fault on a first date are MUCH more likely to come across as stiff…anxious…or worst of all, totally BORING. These guys act like they’re out on a job interview or something. The fact is, most women come away from successful first dates saying things like, “He was so funny…there was this amazing chemistry between us…I really feel something for him.”
That’s why it’s critical that a man “heat up” the usual, polite first meetings and conversations by nurturing interest, enticement and excitement in a woman. The easiest way to do that is to speak to her as if you want to have fun — as if she’s a FRIEND instead of a potential employer.
 After the first “hello” moments of the date, feel free to take the usual conversation topics (careers, movies, whatever) and redirect the conversation in a way that creates FUN instead of TENSION and STIFFNESS. If she’s wearing something interesting, tease her gently about it. Ask her to hold the door for YOU. Tell her you’re tired of talking about your job…you’d rather talk about an ultra-cool experience you just had. Or (even better), one that SHE’S had.
Oh…and if she gives you a compliment, take it as an opportunity to challenge her in small ways that set you apart from that usual, nervous first date guy. Make a joke like, “Look, I’m not like other guys. Compliments won’t get you anywhere.”
In other words, treat her like a friend (and not like you’re trying to “win her over” and impress her) and you’ll see amazing results.Instead, ask questions that signal you’re aware and interesting.
#2) Stop Asking Those Lethal “Attraction Killing” Questions
Once a woman you’ve just met starts to think of you in a particular way, she’s likely to keep thinking of you in that way. This is why I recommend that men avoid the impulse to ask those standard “first date” questions at all costs…most of which are guaranteed ATTRACTION KILLERS.
Whether it’s because he’s nervous, insecure, or just hasn’t planned ahead, I can’t tell you how many men tell me that they ask questions like, “So…how do you think it’s going?” Even worse: “Do you think we’re a good match?” Worst of all: “So, do you like me?”
These types of questions reek of desperation…and desperation is the biggest ATTRACTION KILLER, bar none.
#3) Use The Right Body Language
When you meet a woman for the first time, I just can’t say it enough…you MUST pay attention to your body language.  After all, it starts “speaking” to a woman before you ever say a word. This means making sure to maintain eye contact (but don’t forget to blink…there’s no easier way to come across as a little bit scary).
Sit upright. If she ever draws back away from you, never “chase” her by leaning in. Instead, make sure that you draw back, too. When you speak, use a low, slow voice tone. If you rush your words, you’re more likely to stammer. During conversation, look around the room a little to break the tension.
All of this gets you off to a great start — and just might keep you from losing the game before it even starts
So act like a friend instead of a stiff…avoid asking those “lethal” questions…use the right body language…and getting a great SECOND date is all but assured.
I think all above can be practice for the next guy who want to date with me. Hihi :)




NELY

Love is something that we cannot avoid. Something that is so special, the feelings, the moment are so unforgettable. As a human being,we'll always need love even if we go trough a lot of heartbreak, but we still enjoy loving. So my first date was in 2009. Back when I was in standard 5 though. Haha, it is kind of funny but this is my first puppy love story. The guy's name is Muhammad Shafuan Bin Zuki. He was born on 4th April 1997.We start our relationship on 4th November 2009. He called me with a  sweet nickname on 8th November 2009. Have you ever wonder how I can remember all of this? Well, actually I wrote everything in my diary and I still keep it until now so whenever I read it,I laugh and realized how funny I am back then. Shafuan is a tall guy and known as the athletes in the school. I fell in love with him because of his softness towards me. He is a soft guy, calm and plus he is good looking too.We started by texting each other on the phone then we both fall in love. But that thing only last for two months. I don't feel really sad because both of us weren't t serious at that time. It is just a puppy love. So we don't have to feel heartbroken at all.  


REY

My first date


   My first date is when i was 18. That was the first time i've dated someone for 2 years. The person that i've dated is also my age and also taking STPM at another school. I know the person through Whatsapp, one of my friend invited me into the group Whatsapp. That was the first time i've chated the person and the person seems like she dosen't likes me on the first chat. But then when the person get to know me, the person started chat me privately. After 2 weeks chatting we planed to met up at Lake Valley and the first met was the best met ever. Like everyone says 'first impression is the best impression'. So then, the person and i reached there at the same time. Then we both lunch together and we talked a lot at the first meet like we already known each other for a long time. After that meet we chat everyday and the next week we meet again and again and again until one day we didn't realize that were both are in love. We often hang out together, study together. Every weekend we will  have any outdoor activity together like loitering at the river, swimming, jogging, hiking and go for a roadtrip with our friends. But after 2 years i found out that she have another person and i stared to keep distance with the person. I waited for a month until the person honest with me and one fine day the person reveal the truth. That was the last day i meet the person and i left away. That was my first date and its my sweet short memory. ❤️

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